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Friday, December 12, 2008

You marry a role and/you give up your soul/til it breaks down (c) Something Corporate

So I've been seeing a lot of this with the males in my immediate circle, and some that are not so I couldn't help but touch on it. Recently a lot of men with girlfriends have been hitting on me, which has been making me very pessimistic about relationships, but I digress. I am often described as the 'cool girl.' The antithetical high maintenance, materialistic, stupid, 'extra regular' (c) R. Penn II girl that seems to be getting all the play nowadays... And what I realized is that... These dudes in my immediate circle that keep propositioning me are just GREEDY. They want their skank skeeza, and the girl they can talk to about what's going on the NBA, and I am NOT being that outlet any longer! Lol. After talking to a friend, I realized that these dudes are just settling, they couldn't find what they were looking for in one person, so to avoid being lonely they just take what they can get. Which leads me to this blog....

Contentment vs. Compatibility

I mean I personally know the importance of compatibility when looking for a significant other but a few of my male friends seem to be willing to give in to the idea of being content in lieu of being compatible with a person.... (I blame it on the fact that it's getting cold, people wanting to cuddle up... 'hibernate' if you will... Hey, it explains why most people are born in the Autumn months), but don't they realize that this in turn only hurts them in the long run. I mean the 'crush/infatuation' phase only lasts so long until you realize hey this girl is sexy, but I hate hearing her talk because I am not remotely interested in anything she is interested in. We have NOTHING in common.'

That was just one example...another example of being content is when you have been in a relationship with a girl and figure 'I've been through the fire' (c) Chaka Khan (and no that was not an STD reference) with this broad, I love her, she loves me... That's all we need right? HELL TO THA NAW, because the more time you spend with her, the more you realize that she is not a good compliment to your pomp (swag would go here but I'm sooooo tired of that played out word, so I'm going with 'pomp,' yes pomp as in; grandeur, splendor, array... DON'T JUDGE ME). It's nothing that this girl did, in fact she has never been anything but marvelous too me, she just doesn't do it for me anymore...but I'll just stay with her because inevitably I'm just going to go through this with another chic anyway... And I've already got time invested in this one so, 'I'm gon stick wit u' (c) Pussycat Dolls.

This is being content fella's and it's a BAAADDDDDDD idea. Why do you ask? Because no matter how long you 'stick it out' the fact that you are in the 'content stage' is eventually gonna come out whenever you happen to come across that person you may in fact be compatible with. This in turn is going to make you resentful of this girl that you've been dealing with that you knew wasn't up to par, but you were too big of a sissy to admit it to yourself, and her.

Patience is key when looking for compatibility. Now don't get me wrong I understand that we live in a microwave society and we want things now... So around the winter time I'm not mad at cha if you get in a few After 9/content based relationships. But in the end what is wrong with you that you can't be alone for a lil minute and enjoy the company of oneself? (mixed in with a few one night stands.) However this is where the problem lies.... such situations can have you stuck in that predicament for the long haul. My advice (though it means nothing)? Listen to the e-harmony ads, and 'find out what it's like to be matched based on true compatibility.' *cough, cough* weak niggas *cough, cough*

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